Find out if the one you want to marry is the right person

It is important to get married to the right person rather than getting married soon.

When you are ready to marry be reasonably sure that you will be marrying Ms or Mr Right as this is probably the most important decision of your life.

And when you come face to face with a Miss or Mister how will you know that he/ she is the one? Fortunately there are important pointers that help you decide:

When you are with the right person you will feel good about yourself, safe and contented.

You will know you are with the right person when you feel support and encouragement for your emotional and intellectual growth.

Although expecting a spouse to make you feel happy all the time is unreasonable, being with the right person can make you happy and give you a sense of personal strength.

The right person will not be negative and weak. That person will not be silent, critical or lazy.

In the most successful marriages the spouses are the best of friends first and only then husband and wife. If you feel that the person you are with can be your best friend, then it is likely that you have met the right Ms/Mr.

The right person will be kind, considerate and polite. Little things such as saying ‘thank you’ and holding a door open may seem old fashioned, but they do reflect the character of the person you are with.

Having a partner identical to you in every respect can make life boring. That in itself could become the weak link in a relationship. The differences between the two of you could make life exciting and conversation with such a person can never be boring. However, having different likes and opinions is okay as long as the two of you agree to disagree.

The right person will communicate thoughts and feelings with you and will not keep their concerns bottled up.

Understanding that the only constant in life is change, the right person is willing to discuss marriage issues, questions and topics before you get married.

Trust must be the foundation for a strong long-lasting relationship. Miss or Mr Right is someone you should be able to trust.

The right person will be one who is willing to share the responsibilities of your home and future children.

Finding the right person doesn’t mean that the two of you won’t have difficulties or differences to deal with. However, with the right person you will know that the two of you will be able to work through the issues that could hurt your relationship.

The right person should not be one who tries to curtail your computer usage, or limit the amount of time you spend with others you care about.

You will know you are marrying the right person if your future spouse does not try to isolate you from your family and friends. You not only need to belong to family and friends, you have the right to do so.

The right person in your life will not try to control your life, but will want to share a life with you.

The right person will respect your need for privacy or time alone. You will know you are marrying the right person when you are not questioned about your need for time alone or personal space.

If you are considering getting married, make sure you are getting married for the right reasons. Talk to each other about important issues before you tie the knot.

Finally, even when you think you have found the right person, you may still have doubts. Having doubts about who you are marrying is not only normal, but also healthy. It is absolutely essential that you know the kind of person you are and the kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

You and the right person will have similar goals and values in life. Often they will come from a family similar to yours, with a similar background.
It is a mammoth task to resolve so many issues in the few minutes that you get to speak with a prospective Ms/Mr the first time the two of you meet. But your powers of observation and intuition will tell you whether or not that person has the crucial character traits that you are looking for in a life partner.