When you deeply understand the people around you will have fruitful relationships, says Sadhguru, Isha Foundation.
The closer your relationship with someone, the more effort you should make to understand them. Someone becomes closer and dearer to you only as you understand them better. It is not that the other person is totally bereft of understanding. With your understanding you can create situations where the other person would be able to understand you better. If you are expecting the other to understand and comply with you all the time while you don’t understand the limitations, possibilities, needs and capabilities of that person, conflict is all that will happen. Unfortunately, the closest relationships in the world have more conflict going on than between enemies.
People have fought many more battles in their relationships than countries that have been at war. This is because your line of understanding and theirs is different. If you cross this L.O.C., they will get mad. If they cross it, you will get mad. But if you move your understanding beyond theirs, their understanding also becomes a part of your understanding. You will be able to embrace their limitations and capabilities. In everyone, there are some positive aspects and some negative aspects. If you embrace all this in your understanding, you can make the relationship the way you want it. If you leave it to their understanding, it will become accidental. If they are very magnanimous, things will happen well for you. If not, the relationship will break up.
All I am asking is: do you want to be the one who decides what happens to your life? Whether they are intimate relationships, professional, political, global or whatever, don’t you want to be the person who decides what happens in your life? If you do, you should include everything and everyone into your understanding. You should enhance your understanding to such a point that you can look beyond people’s madness also. There are very wonderful people around you, but once in a while they like to go crazy for a few minutes. If you don’t understand their madness, you will definitely lose them. If you do, then you know how to handle them.
Life is not always a straight line; you have to do many things to keep it going. If you forsake your understanding, your capability will be lost. Whether it is a question of personal relationships or professional management, in both places you need understanding. Then, you will have fruitful relationships.