As the initial buzz of celebrations fade, it is natural to feel a little lonely.
These feelings can crop up sooner or later, and may come in varying degrees, ranging from a tinge of nostalgia to extreme homesickness. There is no reason to panic though. These feelings are completely normal and more common than you think. As a girl, you have left your home and family to become part of a new one, so it is only natural that you will miss your loved ones.
Remember that there is a difference between being “alone” and being “lonely”. While the former is sometimes welcome, the latter most certainly isn’t. Feelings of loneliness can creep in when you begin to miss your family and your parental home. A new relationship and a new place brings a lot of uncertainties and the sudden change in lifestyle can sometimes be very difficult to deal with, particularly if you have moved to a different city or country.
The good news is that you can take charge of the situation and chase away the loneliness monster, while at the same time, fostering a closer bond with your spouse.
If your husband’s travels or busy schedule is the cause of your loneliness, don’t wait for him to come up to you. Instead, be proactive and tell him how you feel. It is possible that your partner does not realize what you are going through or is too caught up with work. But once you make him understand, he may be able to work around his routine to make more time for you.
Indulging in an activity that you both enjoy is an excellent way to re-establish your bond and connect as a couple. How about shopping for new décor items for the living room or planting some trees in the neighborhood? Creating shared experiences such as these gives you a lot to talk about, which eventually opens up the channels of communication for bigger things. As you rediscover each other, you will feel your loneliness slowly fading away.
Men usually don’t work on emotional cues so be as explicit about your needs as possible. Tell them how much you like holding hands during walks and how you always look forward to discussing your dreams about the future.
Now that you have some time to yourself, why not indulge in a new activity? Cooking, gardening, crafts, dance, painting, reading– there is so much you can do to keep yourself busy while your partner is away. Not only are these very constructive ways to spend time, you may also discover a hidden talent along the way!
If your efforts don’t seem to be bearing fruit, it might help to talk to a trusted friend or family member. A simple, heartfelt conversation can work wonders – it gives you a safe medium to vent out your feelings and even ask for advice. Sometimes an outside perspective can show you what your own eyes have been missing.
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