Twenty years ago I had affair with my employee ,at the same time my wife had sex with a neighbor college kid, she admitted her affair, I didnot admit mine. At that time my wife was deep into her alcoholism. My wife suffers still and is in the process of resolving her 3rd DUI. Last week she totaled her 2nd car.
We have a few months ago we started discussing my affair, but its difficult with an alcoholic. I know the hurt I caused and I sure it contributes to her drinking. She continually ask why I did it. I don’t want to bring past things she did or blame her for my past evil. I tell her that I was an evil self centered narcissistic jerk. That does not satisfy her. What should I do?