A happy marriage will make your life more fulfilling. Tips to guide you to happiness.
It is rightly said that “marriages and made in heaven but are celebrated here on earth”, which means that no matter how perfect your union may seem, you will still need to work on your marital relationship to make sure that it doesn’t lose its sheen. Here are ten elements that can make all the difference to the strength and longevity of your relationship with your spouse.
Behind a happy marriage, there are always two very dedicated partners. If you are willing to do everything possible for your partner’s happiness, even the biggest hurdles in life can be overcome with ease. Commit yourself to making your spouse’s life beautiful in every little way you can.
The most pleasurable marriages are those where both partners accept and embrace each other in all totality all their flaws included. Your partner may be very different from you, and may have some habits/ interests that you quite don’t like, but that does not mean you cannot create happy memories together. Remember that no one is perfect, and in pressurizing your partner to change as a person, you will only breed resentment and frustration.
Unconditional love is all about giving without expecting anything in return. Marriage is not a business transaction and neither is it a game of tit-for-tat. Give your marriage your all and put in your best efforts to make it work. Invest emotionally in your partner’s life and give them all your attention when you both are together. Love and understanding over a period in leads to a happy relationship.
Sure, it’s your spouse’s responsibility to take care of you but it wouldn’t hurt to express gratitude every once in a while just to show your appreciation and tell them how much they mean to you. You can get them a small surprise gift, or else, a simple heartfelt hug will work just fine!
Talking can sort out any issue. Strive towards a relationship where you both can openly express your feelings without any fear or hesitation. Make communication a way of life by having “together conversations” every day. These can then open up the channels for more deep and profound discussions.
Holding on to a grudge is easy but it takes a large heart to forgive and move on. We all make mistakes and it is normal to feel hurt or upset over something your partner did. But, hanging on to the anger will only multiply the negativity. The sooner you move on, the better it is for the health of your marriage. It is only fair to give your partner a chance when they ask for it.
Striking the right balance between “my space”, “your space” and “our space” is one of the most crucial and challenging areas of a marriage. Being together while maintaining your individuality ensures that both partners have wholesome and satisfying lives. Keep pursuing your passions and encourage your partner to do the same. It also a healthy practice to nurture relationships outside of your marriage, such as family and friends.
This doesn’t just refer to physical intimacy (though that is important too!). Marriage is beautiful when two people are deeply connected on a mental and emotional level. Make sure to spend enough time alone with your partner where you can explore your relationship and tune in to each other’s thoughts.
Your spouse counts on you to support them at every step, be it career, parenthood, family matters or any other decision that involves both of you. Be by your partner’s side whenever they need you, especially during life’s difficult moments. Sometimes you may not agree with your partner’s viewpoint, yet, respect their feelings and try to understand where they are coming from.
Marriages cannot survive in the absence of trust. Even a small breach of trust will inflict wounds that will take time to heal. Even though it may seem difficult at times, it is always wiser to be truthful and honest with your partner so that the mutual respect is not lost.
By following these you’re sure to have a happy and successful marriage.